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I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around this incident and I thought I would both rant and possibly gain some insight from someone on here. To start, my wife worked a number of years for a dry cleaner. They closed last year, and were left with three wedding dresses that were never claimed back. The business gave two of them to my wife just to get rid of them. Next, my wife's niece is getting married in a few weeks, and the new couple doesn't have a lot of income. My wife offered to GIVE her niece one of the dresses, which she could have sold for at least a couple of hundred dollars, and which is worth quite a bit more. Her family said "great", and by the way, could you make a bridesmaid dress for their little girl to wear to the wedding. My wife said, "sure". A few days ago, my wife's sister-in-law (the bride's mother) called and asked my wife to bring the wedding gown and finished bridesmaid dress out to their house, about ten miles away! Now, let me get this straight, my wife donates a hundreds of dollars wedding dress, hand sews a bridesmaid dress and they want us to DELIVER IT!? We like this family enough, but I'd like to state that they make about DOUBLE our family income. And one more thing. The brother works ONE BLOCK AWAY FROM OUR HOUSE! I really am having a hard time understanding this behavior and attitude. 
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That is truly rude. I would leave them hang out my house and tell them they are ready to be picked up at there convenience. Good on your wife for being so giving shame on them for being so willing to take.
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I hope those dresses are still at your house! If they make double what you make they need to buy a dress for their kid to begin with!
Sounds like your brother in law has trained his sister to put up with this stuff. I suggest you break the pattern now and have a talk.
You are right and they are wrong. Its kinda sad the niece has them for parents. One way people suck.
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They are absorbed with the wedding bullspit, and thoughts of what is inconvenient for others dont even cross their minds. You said you like these folks pretty much so I take it they are generally good folks. These things cause people to go a bit daft.
Dont get angry simply think for them. Say to them send ole boy over here after work as he only works a block from here and he can pick the dresses up.
The truth is people loose their minds in wedding planning.
Its why I avoid folks who announce they are getting married until after the wedding. Then I go back around them. They tend not to notice very much because they were wrapped up in wedding stuff. And I get out of tons of drama.
I have no faith in human perfectability. I think that human exertion will have no appreciable effect upon humanity. Man is now only more active - not more happy - nor more wise, than he was 6000 years ago.
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^^^ +1
Unless your wife is part of the wedding party (which customarily puts them at the mercy of the bride), they should come to you. And they'd better have a nice reciprocal gift for your wife after the wedding hoopla is over.
Reminds me of why the wife and I just went down to the local courthouse 26 years ago.
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Rich, it has come to my attention that your family just plain sucks, man! I would say move but you just built your house... Maybe unplug your phones and double lock all your doors 
Always remember to be yourself. Unless you suck. Then pretend to be someone else.
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Rich, it has come to my attention that your family just plain sucks, man! I would say move but you just built your house... Maybe unplug your phones and double lock all your doors
Point well taken. Honestly, I sometimes think I must be missing something. I don't think I'm extra nice or special. But I know that my wife and I both are giving people, who like to help out even when our resources are often limited. It just seems that there are "diminishing returns" on our love for our family.
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Once certain people know that your a giving person, they will tend to take advantage of that. I have a buddy who has almost nothing, but he will give the shirt off his back. He is helplessly a good person. I have seen him taken to the cleaners a few times. (It was only in the last 5 Years that I finally saw some of the goodness come back to Chuck by people who had never asked anything of him. Thats good Karma  ) I hope that the family comes to their sences and sends the approprite thanks.
Mal: "Y'all see the man hanging out of the spaceship with the really big gun?{ref, Jayne} Man's lookin' to kill some folk. So really, it's his will y'all should worry about thwarting."
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^^^ +1
Unless your wife is part of the wedding party (which customarily puts them at the mercy of the bride), they should come to you. And they'd better have a nice reciprocal gift for your wife after the wedding hoopla is over.
Reminds me of why the wife and I just went down to the local courthouse 26 years ago.
Add another +1 here to what Chad said too.
(...and it was "The Little Chapel of The West" in Las Vegas with about 10 friends and family members in attendance, 22 years ago, for my wife and I)
Yep! Just like a good Single Malt Scotch, you might call me "an acquired taste" TOO.(among the many OTHER things you may care to call me, of course)
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Usually I try to see both sides of the coin... Did you bring the dresses over?  Maybe sis-in-law planned a dinner? +3 what Chad said!
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Hopefully Chad is right on this one, if not they are just being ROTTEN! And if that IS the case you should douce dem dar dresses with time release fart dust or maybe a little tuna oil. But still make ol what's-his-name come pick em up so if anything is suspicious he gets the blame. 
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It's all the reality shows they make one think that being rude is something acceptable when wedding shopping. Oh and by the way if they want to drive up here I have two size 5 wedding dresses hanging in a closet, no alterations included. And for a small fee I'll through in rules of etiquet on cancelling a wedding. 
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That is truly rude. I would leave them hang out my house and tell them they are ready to be picked up at there convenience.
Exactly.
"Catching a yellow jacket in your shirt at seventy miles per hour can double your vocabulary" Author unknown
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humility and gratitude are not on the guest list
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humility and gratitude are not on the guest list
Maybe not, but if they used my idea some humility would be on the brides face once people caught a whiff.
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An observation that seems to hold for at least those I know.
People who go for a small humble wedding seem to have longer lasting marriages. While people who have a huge blow out tend to get divorced rather quickly. I wonder what the correlation is? Nearly every one I know who had a big wedding are divorced and nearly all those who had a small intimate wedding are still married after 14 or 15, years.
I have no faith in human perfectability. I think that human exertion will have no appreciable effect upon humanity. Man is now only more active - not more happy - nor more wise, than he was 6000 years ago.
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Local court house here, going strong on 10 years. Sure we argue and fight some, but we always make up. Wouldn't want to get rid of her and don't think she'd let me. We usually treat each other very well. I make the money, she takes care of our son, manages the house and finances, one hell of a cook and smoking hot too.
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...one hell of a cook and smoking hot too.
Further proof that CHET has been a "bad influence" around here!!!!
Yep! Just like a good Single Malt Scotch, you might call me "an acquired taste" TOO.(among the many OTHER things you may care to call me, of course)
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An observation that seems to hold for at least those I know.
People who go for a small humble wedding seem to have longer lasting marriages. While people who have a huge blow out tend to get divorced rather quickly. I wonder what the correlation is? Nearly every one I know who had a big wedding are divorced and nearly all those who had a small intimate wedding are still married after 14 or 15, years.
I've said the same thing over the years. Those (usually brides) that demand big galas generally have a fairy tale image of what a life long committment to marriage really means. Then they can't cope with the reality that it ain't always a bed of roses.
I ended one relationship when her family's guest list topped 200 (some flying in from Italy). Just a good thing they weren't "connected". 
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Oh crap! My wife just told me the whole story about the dress she is donating. It was never worn and cost $2,500.00!!! Maybe we could have sold the dress to a stranger for $500 and THEY would have been GRATEFUL! 
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Sometimes stress kinda dictates response, I agree with most of the statements but every once in a while I try to take a peek with a different perspective. Feeling like your a bit overwhelmed can change your out look on things.
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A good ole tug o war with the dog in a mud patch before delivery sounds appropriate. Well, it is the thought that counts.
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...one hell of a cook and smoking hot too.
Further proof that CHET has been a "bad influence" around here!!!!
Well if her food tastes like hell, and the kitchen is always hot and smokey , I'm wonderin'. Maybe this is why the ole' boy is such a flusterated yoobikwitus smart arse much like myself and that other guy in Arizona.
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...one hell of a cook and smoking hot too.
Further proof that CHET has been a "bad influence" around here!!!!
I do remember you saying something like this...
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(...actually I would MUCH rather read about a successful marriage, than read all the bellyachin' some guys wanna do about their Ex's...'cause in those second cases, ALL I wanna do is say somethin' to 'em like, "Well Moron! YOU married her!")
Maybe just maybe, SHE was the moron for marring me, but I got her , Hook, line, and sinker! And this one's a keeper.
BTW Wade I have ALWAYS been a Smart Ass, her cooking has only made me fat.
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