My brother in law (wifes twin) has a drinking problem, bad, to the point where he lost his job, house car , debts etc etc. My wife would always help him (twins are pretty close) but finally i had enough, he would break into our home, his parents home and all of that, we tried to help him, programs etc but we were spinning our wheels, he always had a cushion, finally we cut him off, changed all of our locks, put alarms on our homes, stopped giving him money, everything, done, cut off. He has to do it for him or it just won't work, don't enable him, his is a grown man, needs to start acting like one. And don't feel bad for him, he made his choices and continues to do so, there is help avaialble, no excuse. Tough? no bloody question its going to be tough, but thats where he is at.
