I have not been very "church" active in a few years but I do beleive in a god. I will ask for prayers for your wife and you. I have never met you personally but as you say I feel this isa family. and Familys share pain as well as joy.
I have always found this to help me in troubled times. I hope it helps you also.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ieVMf7MGXxU&feature=relatedand the one I was taught as a child.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bGnKj9QVTXY&feature=relatedPEACE BE WITH YOU.