I reckon this is a really important subject that us blokes don't discuss enough (being blokes). The highest percentage demographic of suicide is by middle-aged men in Australia (and probably also the USA). So forgive me if I share my thoughts on the subject.
For me, it was mainly a re-evaluation of two things:
- my identity and,
- what's really important in life, what's my purpose.
I'm learning that identity sourced from external things (career, achievements, what other people think, possessions, etc) is a poor foundation that will usually collapse in the end. Identity needs to come from within (and if you believe, from God).
The bottom line is who you are (your character) is infinitely more important than what you achieve, build or own. Your character influences everyone around you. So who you influence and how you influence them is the big opportunity. So, while you probably won't be remembered in 40 years time, your influence (your example) with those you love (and who they in turn influence) can be a lasting heritage.
You can also buy a motorcycle. No one will remember you but at least you might go out with a bang.
