.....and then from John Boy's "Book of Tools for Effective Communication", which he learned from a Sportster riding midwestern female Psychologist
**Face Saving; Yours and Theirs**; The short interpretation is “Public praise and private punishment”. If you have ever been reprimanded or embarrassed in public you’ll immediately know the reason why. The person you talk to will appreciate it. If there is an issue, speak respectfully in private, otherwise always, always keep your public comments about someone positive, particularly when they are not present. The positive side to respecting this rule is a greater sense of trust, you can avoid Power Struggles. Break this rule and response is guaranteed, it may sell papers, but doesn't solve many problems.
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