I think he gets the $42,000.

Dave made good point, I think you should consult a divorce lawyer. Most won't charge for the first visit. If not for you for the boys you plan to adopt. You could end up with a monthly stipend from her and it would total more then $84K over the long run. I thinks she is hoping you will take the deal.

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