Aaron, I've been watching this post and hoping for the best for you.
I quit drinking, (not on a whim),18 years ago. The fact that society took a different view of drunken driving in my heyday does not excuse my irresponsible actions. I was lucky to be let go each time I was juiced behind the wheel,(about 4 nights a week).
If,God forbid, some drunk took out my whole family, I would be a hypocrite to hate that person,(that could have been me). That said, nobody who has driven drunk has much right chastizing you.
I hope that you never find yourself in this position again.