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Don't be an enabler.

Insist (by this I mean she is given no other option) that she gets the help she needs.

Tell her exactly why you can't have her living with you, no need to worry about hurting her feelings, it sounds as though she is manipulative and will use any ambivalence on your part against you.

Mark could agree to go to counseling with her. You could too if you think it might help, and it probably would since you and Mark are a team. He'll need you through this time.

But, it can't be like before, where she just gets her way.

Find a capable attorney and have her committed.




I thought that was where we were when we talked to her this morning. I know that by continuing to bail her out we are enabling the behaviors, and yes..there is a VERY HIGH DEGREE of manipulation involved. I clearly explained to her that we have 2 young and very impressionable children to think of (which was turned into oh, see they mean more to you than I do) and that we as a unit did not have the financial, emotional, nor the professional means to give her the help that she needed, that it was beyond our capabilities. That she had proven before she ever left the hospital in the first place that nothing had changed and that all this was was a stunt and that she was showing blatant disregard for her family and friends who cared very deeply for her.
You are right, every thing that was put out with concern and love was twisted to be used to her benefit and "see, no body wants me".
Now I'm at a loss because I'm between a rock and a hard place because I know that this isn't the end of it and it'll turn to he## within a day or so and her brother and sister are going to have to go through the turmoil of whatever drama she drudges up when it hits the fan here.