What can a person say when asked such a question? You may not wish to put your daughter in as you put a “mental†institution. But from your post she is clearly unwell and a danger to herself. I realize this may be a difficult decision for you as you have your family “Kimmy†to consider. I would seriously look at having your daughter placed into a hospital where she can and will receive the medical care she needs.
This will probably not be short term issue as your daughter sounds like a very troubled young lady. I can only hope that she finds within herself the courage to carry on. I also hope that you also have the courage to do what is right even though it is a very difficult decision. This decision has to be made for your daughters’ safety and well being.
The other side of the coin that should be considered is that she waits till her mother is out of the country on vacation. There sounds like an element of manipulation in this. I am not saying this is definite it’s a possibility.
I ca only wish you all the best I hope you seek the answers you are looking for. I hope that your daughter finds the inner peace she so badly needs. You are in my thoughts.