Bless you Paula.
My mother's last years (she died at 88, in Oct. of '06) were similar to what you're going through with your aunt.
She had gradually developed dementia, perhaps Alzheimer's, but it wasn't conclusively diagnosed as such.
I learned with my father (who died in 1980 of respiratory failure) that the lack of oxygen to the brain caused by the diminished lung capacity causes damage resulting in dementia-like symptoms.
Not trying to be a downer here, just wanting to encourage you. Your aunt is still the same special aunt you grew up knowing and perhaps (probably) has not chosen to behave the way she is. It's the results of her disease.
As much as it seems contrary to our nature, it may be best to patronize her. She won't get better and her last days will be less stressful for all involved.
Have fun!!!
Cruising is a blast
