To echo Paula and Oldroadie, do the drug tests! A very close friend had a 15 year old who was acting "strange", and suspicious, but was otherwise a straight-A, seemingly well-behaved kid. But his Mom (my friend) had a gut feeling that "something" was going on (it wasn't as obvious as in your case where your son is acting out against seemingly everything). Well, she didn't follow her gut, and her son and another kid ended up taking another kid out that they were ****** at, and pointing a gun at him and robbing of some money the other kid said he owed him, and then beat him up some. Well, after A LOT of lawyering, and it being a first time offense, she finally got VERY LUCKY, and he ended up getting off with 90 days in a juvenile detetntion center, as well as probation for a year and random drug tests. It could have all gone much more horribly wrong obviously, and thankfully, he has learned a lesson. None of us EVER want to think our kids can do something as stupid as drugs, but I did some (not heavily) when I was your sons age, and I knew better and was not a "problem" child. 15 year olds (or 13-20) are not very good at making sensible common sense decisions, and throw that on top of all the hormonal changes, it's VERY easy for them to stray off the path. Not only would I recommmend a drug screening, but also as others have mentioned, keep trying to talk TO him, not AT him. Not confrontationally, because, I can tell you, that doesn't work with my 8 year old, and it won't work with a 15 year old. But also consider the possibility that it's something along the lines of a hormonal or chemical imbalance. Reach out for help in EVERY direction, and do not rule ANYTHING out. Best of luck to both of you, I hope it turns out well.
