Mark and Kimmy-
You both are being so courageous in sharing this. There's a saying in the recovering community- "You're as sick as your secrets", meaning if folks keep problems inside or "in the house" (cuz don't we all want to look like we're on top of everything), it only festers and worsens. Your love and commitment to your son is shown by your posts. Applause and respect to you.
I'm going to echo again oldroadie's suggestion about the drug/alcohol testing- also speaking from experience, and especially now that you've shared about Brad getting so violent with Kimmy and his sister.... And really encourage you and Mark get some outside support and guidance for yourselves to stay sane, to stay united as a couple as you figure out how to manage Brad. You don't need to be alone in dealing with your son- it doesn't mean you're not good enough as parents or that you're failing in any way if you reach out for help.
