I have 1 defiant kid. She actually has Defiant Disorder among a couple other problems but if thats what is going on you are in for a wild roller coaster ride. Not much you can do unless you medicate (we chose not to). The drug test is also a good idea in my opinion. With Defiant Disorder beating and yelling won't help it actually has the opposit effect because they can't distinguish good attention from bad. I fight with it every day,and there are good days and bad days. I don't have any real solution for you if thats what is going on. I believe in spanking and disipline so don't take it as an anti-spanking thing just won't help.The holding down , same thing. All you can do is try and talk and steer him in the right direction and it will be tough. I hope for your sake it is just a boy rebeling.

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