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is 36 too young for this to happen?
we should do this every weekend!
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yes waaaaaaay too young ..unless I guess you don't see your self living much longer then 72?? guess 36 is mid-life!
Are we there YET? I gotta go pee!!
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is 36 too young for this to happen?
 what prompts this question grasshopper?
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I am starting my mid life crisis early and extend it until I am at least 70.
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Eeh! Don't worry about it, Yota. Ya see, once you learn (like I did at about age 50) to accept the idea that you'll probably never do, say, or write anything of major importance, and thus no one will even remember you 40 years after you die, all that "mid-life crisis" crap just floats off your weary shoulders like a little bitty butterfly taking flight. (...gee, I hope this helps!)  
Yep! Just like a good Single Malt Scotch, you might call me "an acquired taste" TOO.(among the many OTHER things you may care to call me, of course)
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Eeh! Don't worry about it, Yota.
Ya see, once you learn (like I did at about age 50) to accept the idea that you'll probably never do, say, or write anything of major importance,
(...gee, I hope this helps!)
Too true. But I'm still gonna keep trying. My latest ruse is to carve my name in the concrete foundations of the houses I build.
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I used to write my name inside walls and on rafters of houses I built. I remember seeing names from other guys when I did a remodel. So far never had any kind of midlife thing but I also didn't think I would live this long.
I learned all I need to know about life by killing smart people and eating their brains.
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Revisiting your past and looking forward to your future is not a bad thing. Usually being closer to 40 is the norm to start reflecting, but 36 is getting close. Have fun making plans for the future...
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I am starting my mid life crisis early and extend it until I am at least 70.
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Replace that "crisis" word with "adventure" and start it as early as you can JR.
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If a mid life crisis is fear of getting old........no problem. Being old don't last long.
I have no faith in human perfectability. I think that human exertion will have no appreciable effect upon humanity. Man is now only more active - not more happy - nor more wise, than he was 6000 years ago.
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I reckon this is a really important subject that us blokes don't discuss enough (being blokes). The highest percentage demographic of suicide is by middle-aged men in Australia (and probably also the USA). So forgive me if I share my thoughts on the subject. For me, it was mainly a re-evaluation of two things: - my identity and, - what's really important in life, what's my purpose. I'm learning that identity sourced from external things (career, achievements, what other people think, possessions, etc) is a poor foundation that will usually collapse in the end. Identity needs to come from within (and if you believe, from God). The bottom line is who you are (your character) is infinitely more important than what you achieve, build or own. Your character influences everyone around you. So who you influence and how you influence them is the big opportunity. So, while you probably won't be remembered in 40 years time, your influence (your example) with those you love (and who they in turn influence) can be a lasting heritage. You can also buy a motorcycle. No one will remember you but at least you might go out with a bang. 
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is 36 too young for this to happen?
Not if you live to be 72. 
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Hey Foglefar, i think you just hit the nail smack on the head! I was never that concerned about career or possesions and just kind of drifted thru life. All changed when i met my wife, 9 years ago, and more so when i had a son, at age 43. He is now 6 and makes me realise life is short and should be enjoyed with family and friends. The rest is just window dressing! You should also make time for the bike runs and occasional blast of a party! 
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I am a Firefighter/Paramedic.
That said, we had a woman drop dead getting on the bus last shift.
She was 24.
Examine your life early and often, as you are assured of nothing.
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Depends. Are you looking for a young woman? Looking to chuck everything and hit the road? Just walk away from it all?
Or are you just wondering about your place in the big scheme of things and reevaluating your priorities?
If the former, it could be something like a mid-life crisis.
If the latter, it's absolutely about time. (In fact you'll probably do this several times during your life.)
Contra todo mal, mezcal; contra todo bien, también
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I'm 36 too, Yota. And I couldn't get the young lady at the grocery store to card me for a beer last night. As I rode home I started to think too, maybe like you. Up until about this point in my life I have attempted too look older and wiser. Now it would appear I am trying to look younger-ha! Fogle says it well. And a serious topic that should be discussed among "blokes," I'll use your term in quotes since I'm WAY north of bloke country! I hope you are doing ok and just feeling like doing something stupid like bungee jumping or buying a Harley!! Those that matter don't care if you screw up/are a fool/laugh when you fart etc, and those that care don't matter. There is much more to a man than wealth and status. My two cents from a guy at the same age  Ride on Yota!! Brett
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i'm thinking it is some mid-life kinda like. i'm going to try & cure it again tonight with a 1/5th of crown. i think a road trip is in order.
we should do this every weekend!
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I am a Firefighter/Paramedic.
That said, we had a woman drop dead getting on the bus last shift.
She was 24.
Examine your life early and often, as you are assured of nothing.
Yep. I learned during my days on the bus that a damn rock can fall on your head any second. You see it every shift. Never take a day for granted.
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I reckon I've been through my mid life crisis and from what I've learned my advice is that in life in all things we need to have a balance so every thing doesn't come crashing down.
Keep an eye on the balance of things and don't expect it all to just roll along with out a small issue which can turn into a big issue faster than you may have liked (but did all the same)
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http://www.bonnevilleamerica.com/forums/...5823#Post522204Looks like a couple of guys are heading to mid Ohio for some two wheel fun this weekend. Looks like a nice ride for you from Kentucky. Quick story about crown. My father in law had an old impala he fixed up. And his ex wife told him I don't want you out there drinking that cheap whiskey and working on that car. So the next weekend he got a bottle of crown. And she said I thought we talked about this! He said back-this isn't cheap whiskey this is the good stuff. Haha! I don't know why she's an ex now...
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Yep, these are all good suggestion here, Yota. But, the MAIN thing here is, at 36 years of age, it's just about that time of your life where you should start seriously cultivating a deep and abiding appreciation for the absurdities in life. That helps keep ya from goin' stark ravin' mad. At least it's done that for ME anyway. (...okay okay, folks...yeah, yeah...I may be "mad", but I ain't "STARK RAVIN'" mad) 
Yep! Just like a good Single Malt Scotch, you might call me "an acquired taste" TOO.(among the many OTHER things you may care to call me, of course)
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I suppose that a lot of reflection of how you're life has gone is gonna be determined by what you value and how you perceive it. I'm always of two minds about my own so called "acomplishments". On one hand, I am fairly well educated and have built some fairly nice things. I've tried to be a good father and a decent human being. On the other, everything I've built will be dust or junk in a hundred years or so and I wish I could have been a more attentive father. The decent human being part is always a work in progress. Sometimes I reflect and pat myself on the back, sometimes I am sad that I could have done better with the "gifts" I'd been given. One thing I hold to be true, and the most important, is to "never quit growing". When you stop being inquisitive or complacency is your norm, you're dead.
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Never pass up an opportunity to tell someone you love them.
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All changed when i met my wife, 9 years ago, and more so when i had a son, at age 43. He is now 6 and makes me realise life is short and should be enjoyed with family and friends. The rest is just window dressing!
I think that is probably true for a lot of us, if you are fortunate. Although (God knows how) I was a college graduate and a veteran when I met my wife, deep down I was pretty much a mess. I think she would admit to the same. Together, we were far greater than the sum of our parts. I look at my kids and I'm in awe of them. Soooo much better people than I was at their age. My oldest spent his last vacation donating bone marrow to a stranger. That never would have occurred to me at his age. I have been blessed and I don't take any of it for granted.
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Never pass up an opportunity to tell someone you love them.
I do that all the time, usually about closing time. 
Every normal man must be tempted, at times, to spit on his hands, hoist the black flag, and begin slitting throats.
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On the other, everything I've built will be dust or junk in a hundred years or so.
What?! 
Ya know Rich, I do believe the building codes in the state on Iowa say that any and all homemade elevators have to built to last a minimum of 150 years!
Yep! Just like a good Single Malt Scotch, you might call me "an acquired taste" TOO.(among the many OTHER things you may care to call me, of course)
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On the other, everything I've built will be dust or junk in a hundred years or so.
What?!
Ya know Rich, I do believe the building codes in the state on Iowa say that any and all homemade elevators have to built to last a minimum of 150 years!
Some of the stuff I built early in my career has already been knocked down in the name of progress.
Not that I care, I got paid, and that's the whole point of having a job.
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Yeah, well, I already knew you were the "mercenary type", Dave! (...yep, that's our Dave here, folks..."I just want that money so I can go and resurrect some rusty old piece of iron!")
Yep! Just like a good Single Malt Scotch, you might call me "an acquired taste" TOO.(among the many OTHER things you may care to call me, of course)
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Hey now, don't get me wrong, I like what I do! I just wouldn't do it for free! Mercenary carpenter I like it! 
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Hey now, don't get me wrong, I like what I do! I just wouldn't do it for free!
Mercenary carpenter
I like it!
Mercenary Carpenter starring Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson.
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Yeah, good casting there, Chet! (...yep, Arnold and/or Bruce are now WAY past that "mid-life crisis" point in their lives, and so might be a little too long-in-the-tooth to believable portray EITHER a Mercenary OR a Carpenter on screen, huh?!)
Yep! Just like a good Single Malt Scotch, you might call me "an acquired taste" TOO.(among the many OTHER things you may care to call me, of course)
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I reckon this is a really important subject that us blokes don't discuss enough (being blokes). The highest percentage demographic of suicide is by middle-aged men in Australia (and probably also the USA). So forgive me if I share my thoughts on the subject.
For me, it was mainly a re-evaluation of two things:
- my identity and,
- what's really important in life, what's my purpose.
I'm learning that identity sourced from external things (career, achievements, what other people think, possessions, etc) is a poor foundation that will usually collapse in the end. Identity needs to come from within (and if you believe, from God).
The bottom line is who you are (your character) is infinitely more important than what you achieve, build or own. Your character influences everyone around you. So who you influence and how you influence them is the big opportunity. So, while you probably won't be remembered in 40 years time, your influence (your example) with those you love (and who they in turn influence) can be a lasting heritage.
You can also buy a motorcycle. No one will remember you but at least you might go out with a bang.
Golly, I hope not, Richard — go out with a bang, that is. Everything else you said is really great advice.
Supertramp put it slightly differently in a few lyrics in their tune, "Poor Boy," on the Crisis? What Crisis album:
"With one drop of rain they complain
And it's the same about the wage they're earnin'
Well that is not how it is going to be with me
Though I'm a poor boy, I can still be happy
As long as I can feel free."
Life's what we make of it. The sooner we see that, the better.
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Dwight's gittin us, Dave. And as to the 150 year old warranty on the elevator, in another 50 years, ya can sue me!
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Yeah, good casting there, Chet!
(...yep, Arnold and/or Bruce are now WAY past that "mid-life crisis" point in their lives, and so might be a little too long-in-the-tooth to believable portray EITHER a Mercenary OR a Carpenter on screen, huh?!)
While I am quite sure that Arnold possesses a useful skill of some sort I'm still waiting to see what it is.
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Yeah, good casting there, Chet!
(...yep, Arnold and/or Bruce are now WAY past that "mid-life crisis" point in their lives, and so might be a little too long-in-the-tooth to believable portray EITHER a Mercenary OR a Carpenter on screen, huh?!)
While I am quite sure that Arnold possesses a useful skill of some sort I'm still waiting to see what it is.
Well then Chet, maybe there'll be some insights into what kind of "useful skills" Arnold possesses when his latest picture(now that he's "baak" in The Biz) is released. Word is it's kind of a semi-autobiographical thing.
(...the present working title is..."Maid To Order II: Don't Tell Maria"!)
Yep! Just like a good Single Malt Scotch, you might call me "an acquired taste" TOO.(among the many OTHER things you may care to call me, of course)
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ROTFLMAO 
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If this poem fits, you are there.....
"I've reached middle age,
this must be it.
too tired to work,
too broke to quit."
Let's hope there's intelligent life somewhere in space 'cause it's buggar all down here. -- Monte Python
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is 36 too young for this to happen?
Not at all. I've been through 3 or 4 since then and the self examination is worthwhile....although I keep thinkin' I'll finally grow up...
A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort. Herm Albright (1876 - 1944)
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I'm pushing 38 and a parent of two teens, one who is turning 18 soon. So the thought of my "second-half" of life approaching is pretty much like a fresh new 1/2!! Looking forward to being part of my kids lives and their families...and having the house to ourselves again Hell, I still feel like i'm a kid in life.
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