Bonneville America Forums Forums Off Topic Discussion Forums Lounge devorce settlement

what the heck should i do
$42,500 half now half next year for tax purposes
or

go to court fight with lawyers
shes a surgeon I'm a house husband
she makes 250 to 350 grand a year I'm a working stiff with minimal earning potential.
been married 5.5 years
no kids
??????????????????????????

Bloody ****** mate , do you mean SHE is paying you to be FREE
Take the money and run , ask for a quickie first just to ****** her off

The lawyers will end up with most of the money...Best to just head on down the road. New adventures await..

Looks like some alimony is in your future. If the tables were turned, you would most definitely be paying her until she got remarried, no reason you can't get the same thing.

That's a hosing brother. Would you end up with any equity in the deal at all? I'd put the $42K towards a fight before I'd just hand it over. When it gets down to it without kids they can only squeeze you so hard.

I think he gets the $42,000.

Dave made good point, I think you should consult a divorce lawyer. Most won't charge for the first visit. If not for you for the boys you plan to adopt. You could end up with a monthly stipend from her and it would total more then $84K over the long run. I thinks she is hoping you will take the deal.

Question....... not to be greedy but realistic...your being a "house husband" .. was that instrumental in her success ? I know my wife "staying home and not just taking care of the kids but me too after my 16 to 18 hr days was critical to any success I (we) now have. Did you fore go any educational / professional opportunities during your time together in order to help her further her career ? Marriage is a contractual partnership and there is a reason assets are often split 50/50...... You have to be realistic but look into this as you do not want to sell yourself short....If this kid thing was started during the marriage and you get these boys , she could be obligated to child support till they reach 18...of course this also means visitation on her part possibly....consider options carefully as now is the time not a year later to act..... Taking the settlement and walking may be best, but then again.......? Just don't step over quarters to pick-up a penny...lawyers are good at causing that !

OK, my mistake. I've seen a few friends get drilled in these arrangements even when the soon-to-be-ex has much more capitol. I'm certainly no fan of funding lawyers unless absolutely necessary but they can be useful at times. Bottom line hopefully a fair and equitible compromise for all can be acheived.

Definitely get a free consult before just settling. You might want to get a hold of Goldberg Jones 1-800-Divorce http://www.goldbergjones-or.com they specialize in standing up for men. I used them once when it came to child support and it worked out pretty darn good. Like mentioned before, since you have been a house-husband you just may be entitled to some alimony.

you should definitly talk to a couple of different lawyers.in most states alimony is only awarded if you have been married for 7 or more years.you technically are entitled to half of all MARITAL ASSETS,that means things you guys acquired while married,so if bought a house together,you are entitled to half,if she bought it pre marriage it's a pre-marital asset and you aren't entitled to it.so you need to determine if you guys have more than $84,000 in assets,but be smart if you 2 own a home valued at $200,000 and you $180,000 on it you might be smart to take the $42,000,seeing as how there would only be $20,000 in equity,your half being $10,000.and the tax thing doesn't make sense,if she gives you $42,000 of marital income,then she should of already paid taxes on it and you shouldn't have to.

1- Did you quit your job to raise her kids?
2- Did you quit your job to maintain her house at her request?
3- Did you pay for or contribute significantly to her education?
4- Were you well employed and self sufficient 6 years ago and at her request relocate or become unemployed, with her promise to support you?
====================================

Yes to any of the above in Oregon will get you alimony. No to all of them will get you advise to take that money and go.