 divorce from OR to OK
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going back home to (Tulsa) after 6 good years in Oregon (Hillsboro, Grants Pass, Coos Bay). yes I traveled every two years to a new town to keep her happy and successful in her job(OBGYN). Now she wants me out! since housing and investments have gone south, I'm getting nothing. i don't understand how one can love and then not. this week has made me weak, but I'm a strong guy and should be fine. Friends and family will be happy to have me back and i'll be a happier person. Best thing fellow riders Oregon riding season vs. Oklahoma riding season! sure there is religious, political, and living philosophies(recycling, earth hugging) are really really different. but their is no substitute for friends. NONE! Not her dr.'s income or the greatest trees in the world (that's Oregon for you). I might be looking for a rider to travel on the bike down 101 to LA then on 40 to Tulsa(weather permitting) hwy 10 farther south is 2nd option. I will be w/ rider packing my lunch along the way. The wost thing is the boys. Jan 1 of this yr. we started a process of adopting two brothers 11, 13 yrs old. Months of of mentoring and they moved in June, adoption is not final, and she is not on the hook leagaly or is going to assist w/ $ for them. I will not put these boys back to the system. I started it(with a wife) and I'm going to finish it w/ or w/o her. I do need your prayers & wishes. Thx a ton. o5 speedy rider Scottie Appell 
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Re: divorce from OR to OK
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Sorry to hear of your predicament....on the bright side...in a recent Wall Street Journal report, Oklahoma City & Tulsa were listed as a couple of the top economies in the nation, beat out by Austin and Dallas Tx and I think Little Rock, AR metro was in there close....any how...the economy isn't terrible here in Oklahoma
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I feel for ya, had my heart broken a couple times. Lucky I had never married any of them just lived with. The boys should help emotionally I think, good luck!
I learned all I need to know about life by killing smart people and eating their brains.
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Oil Expert
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Quote:
I do need your prayers & wishes
You've got mine.
"Wise men speak because they have something to say, fools because they have to say something."
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3/4 Throttle
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Prayers and best wishes to you and the boys!!
05 TBA Mulberry/Silver, Thunder Bike pipes, K&N single Filter, 132 main Jet's, Snorkles Removed
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Will keep a good thought for you. Keep your chin up and your face in the wind.
Thom
I might be wrong, I sometimes am.
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Going through separation myself...living in the same house, thankfully all amicable at the mo...feel for you though and know what you are going through...
Chin up you have good days and bad days...do not be hard on yourself and build a protective wall around you and concentrate on the practical things to get you through
Bike has been my saviour....
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You are my hero for for putting the kids before yourself.
I think you already found the "reason" you are in this relationship. Those kids need you to finish what was started. Sounds like your future ex isn't up to the commitment...
Those kids need someone to show them what strength, love, and perseverance really[/] mens.
Hang in there, boss. You can do this.
2002 Bandit 1200/ GSXR cams/ 1277 BB Kit/ Holeshot header and can/ 38mm flatslides/ a good head/lotsa hp/lotsa tq- lots of rear tires...
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Hang in there Scott. I've been there myself. Tulsa is a good place to raise a couple of boys. As you probably know there are good public schools here and like Dan said, the economy is still pretty strong in this area. Look at it this way. You will be closer to the AR rally and much closer to the GA. rally.  Look Donny and I up when you get settled. Maybe I will have another bike by then. I respect your decision to follow through with your adoption plans and will be keeping you and the boys in my thoughts and prayers. Paul
"Catching a yellow jacket in your shirt at seventy miles per hour can double your vocabulary" Author unknown
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That's a mighty heavy load to tote brother. Don't know what I can do to help, but if you can think of anything, let me know.
Signed,
Former full time single father of two, whose 1st wife ran away years ago when the oldest was 5.
Found the right wife 14 years ago, who raised the kids as if they were her own.
They are now 24 and 26. We got by...
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Best to ya Scott and hats off too for making the boys important. Ya got my highest respect and best wishes. Sounds like ya got good support and don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it.
Live to love, love to live.
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I'm pulling for ya, Scott! You'll be a great dad for the boys, as at least ONE of you has your head on strait!
Fidelis et Fortis
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wow i knew I could find strength in this site. thank you all so much and keep it coming!!! I'm thinking of keeping my speedy and getting a Ural w/ side hack. coming from green Oregon it seem like a fun, green way to go. my speedy will be my shaking eyebrows w/ the honeys bike. it would be real nice to land the eagle again! chin up and face in the wind.... I love it! Love it all riders! i'll update later. if it proper place to do so. it is the lounge. thx Scottie
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