Bonneville America Forums Forums Off Topic Discussion Forums Lounge I bit the sand.

Well, I've got good news and bad news guys. I'll start with the good news. I just got back from San Diego, and am happily engaged to an amazing girl. Everything went as planned, and she had no idea. It happened on Del Mar Beach. (Hence the title) Her parents were the only ones that knew before hand. Mainly for permission sake is why I told them, and also help clear the air if they had any concerns.


The bad:
Now all he11 breaks loose, and a wedding has to be planned. I would have preferred making that short trip to Vegas, but she didn't go for it. (duh) I'm a pretty mellow dude to those of you that know me. So my plan is to just stay out of the way, and let them do the planning. Budget is key, and I'm sure I'll have to stress that every 10 minutes. You guys got any last words for me?
Oh and

Congrats, so she lives in San Diego?

Forget Vegas.

Run away to Jamaica. Now. Ask her and go. Now.

Take no-one else. Enjoy wedding by the water, honeymoon and 24 hour room service. On Friday before leaving for home, email link to your wedding video to family. Enjoy surprised reactions upon return.

Return home relaxed, tanned, and make the rounds as newlyweds for the holidays.

...over and over and over and over AGAIN...and you'll be juuuuust fine!!!

Congrats, Aaron! Okay, first off, it doesn't take months and months of planning, 2 will probably be enough, but you want to get your venue booked well in advance. When you and I had lunch that day in July, I had no idea that I would be married in a matter of six weeks, and only with 5 days of planning, so I know it can be done. As far as your budget, YOURS is low. She wins. It's going to cost more than you think if you plan on inviting people to it. We talked about having a destination wedding too, and then we could invite everyone we wanted and if they show up, great and if not, well, we invited them so they couldn't complain. There are a ton of little things that may seem stupid to you, but for some reason women like them, so keep your comments to yourself. Vent about them here, with menly men, and we'll agree with you and have little beer smiley faces and we might make fun, but don't tell her.
Anyway, good for you taking the plunge! I hope she keeps you in line! Having be a surprise was a good way to do it.

First of all... congratulations!!!

Secondly, practice the "yes dear" thing (as previously suggested) until it becomes automatic. I live alone after being married. I never was good at the "yes dear" thing. I rest my case!!

Well we're looking at April 2011 if that tells you anything about her thoughts on this wedding. I've got 2 cousins and a brother getting married already this spring and my fiancee doesn't want to do it in the fall. That's ok with me cause it's hunting season, and don't want a wedding or anniversary getting in the way of that.

Yes Dear.

Keith and Dwight...I agree 110%

I too use the "YES DEAR" like Keith said. It has provided many years of happiness. Giving in is better than fighting. Trust me. Of course now she gives in when I say yes dear since it makes her feel bad.

i can only add

"do whatever you want"

doesnt actually mean what it says so be warned

"Yes dear" didn't really work too well with me. But, a vial of holy water usually did!

The "You're Right" is absolutly correct. The only time I ever had to admit to that she wouldn't let it go for weeks.

Misery loves company.
Haven't you read the shortest Fairy Tale... There one was a guy that proposed marrige to a beautiful girl and she said NO. and he went on to ride motorcycles, drink beer, and do whatever he wanted and lived happily ever after.

Anyway, congratulations and good luck.

i have 38yrs wrapped up in this gig and the one thing i think is important is to remember, all you have done is seen to it that you have a best friend to stand by you for the rest of your life, nothing more nothing less!!! i expect nothing more from my wife then for her to be consistant as to who she is. you now have a buddy to go swimming with, is all!!!! (life is like swimming upstream) dont expect her to do anything more than you would expect a guy roommate to do. ie; would you expect a guy to pick up your beer can off the coffee table???decide up front who is more capable at what, she can cook, well than you can do the dishes, she is good in the house, you can do the lawn, that kinda stuff. one of the most important things is to lay down the ground rules right up front, dont make me ever have to lie to you, if i feel like i will get in trouble when i tell you i stopped at joes house, then i will never tell you i have been to joes house (dont make me lie, its the beginning of the end) a lot of times a spouse will give the other a hard time about somewhere you have been or something you have done so eventually you will lie about it....not good!!! and as stated before, yes dear go's a long long way!!!!!! just remember....she is only a roommate, yes a roommate with benifits but still just a roommate. in each situation ask yourself, would i treat a guy roommate this way??? probably not, cuz he would kick your ******. good luck and i wish for you many many yrs of love, peace and happiness!!!!!!

Dwight,

I just forwarded your response to your wife

Ooooh...now THAT sounds BAD!!!

Marriage isn't a word....it's a sentence.
A Bachelor is a man who didn't make the same mistake once.

Oh, and I just found out how to make the é so I can spell it correctly. Fiancé

Yes is no and no is yes...oh the mind of a woman is a beautiful thing!

And on the 8th day, God created the concept of motorcycles, and saw that it was good, but man, was a bit slow...

(+)Studies have shown that married people live longer.
(-)You spend many of those years wishing you hadn't and hoping for death - Not aways yours.

If you're worried about being alone in your 'golden' years - get a pen pal. They're much easier to ignore.

Take a good look at her mother - Both appearance and personality. That's exactly what you'll be saddled with in about 20 years.

It's not always that bad. I'm just a little bitter & expect to be that way until my sentence is commuted. I'm working on it now. Of course there's some serious financial 'community service' sentence I'll have to serve now.

Ah the lovely Ms. Betsy... could tell you guys were kind of one mind when we met. Congratulations to you both!