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Well, my life has now changed forever. I posted a couple weeks ago about getting married and my mom's leukemia. Last Monday, my mom left the hospital and went home and had hospice set up at the house because the experimental drug didn't work. I found out on I guess the 11th. Spent a lot of time with Mom at the hospital that weekend, and all week at my parents house. Thursday morning, with all of us around her, she died from the cancer. To say it sucks is an understatement. 59 years old, and then gone. I'm glad that I had time with my mom in her last week to talk about things and get some stuff off my chest that I may have regretted not saying. 5 days later and it's still not any easier. We have a real close family, we all live here in St. Louis and do a lot of stuff together. Angela and I, and the rest of the family, have been trying to keep Dad busy, he's really struggling with this, he and my mom met when she was 16, he was 17. She always took care of everything, so now we are going to have to teach him basic computer skills to pay bills and bank. Man, this just sucks. We had really hoped that the drug would work, I guess looking for a miracle. Mom had made peace with it, although I know she didn't want to go. Hardest thing I ever did was hold her hand as she slipped away. That was tough...
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Dave,
I'm sorry to hear this. I've been reading along as you shared. It's tough. I have no words of wisdom to add here, just know our thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.
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My heart goes out to you and yours. I really don't know what else to say about it. Very sad news!
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Dave, my friend...
You know how I feel and that I am there for you and your family. My deepest condolences are always with you. I really wish I could do something to fix it.
Your friend always...Chris
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Dave, I finally got to meet you Saturday at the All British Car and Motorcycle show.
You mentioned then that your mother had passed and I could not think of anything sadder to hear.
I could tell that you were bothered by it and my deepest sympathies go out to you. 59 is too young to go.
Hang in there and let me know if I can do anything for you.
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Dave, All I can think is thats rough!
My heart goes out to you and your family.
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Sorry about your loss Dave. I am glad you have your family to help each other through this. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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My sincere condolences, Dave.
Please take some comfort in knowing that your close family ties will serve you well in helping ease the sorrow of losing your beloved Mom.
Yep! Just like a good Single Malt Scotch, you might call me "an acquired taste" TOO.(among the many OTHER things you may care to call me, of course)
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My heartfelt condolences Dave.
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I am sorry for your loss Dave. My mom passed away on July 4th, after a 2 year battle, so I understand exactly what you are going through right now. With the help of your family and friends, you will all get through this. My thoughts are with you and your family.
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Genuinely sorry for your loss. Lost my Dad in January.
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Our condolences to you Dave
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My heart goes out to you. My mother is the same age, and I could not imagine life without her.
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We are sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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I'm sorry for your loss Dave. I went through the exact same thing with my mom almost 14 years ago. Experimental drugs, Hospice at home and then we moved her to the Hospice house. Things will get easier as time passes. I'm glad you had the opportunity to spend time with her. I'm still thankful for the awesome folks who work with Hospice.
Spend time with your Dad and celebrate the life of your mother with him.
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Sorry for your loss. My wife lost her mother to cancer 2 years ago this week - 30 days from diagnosis.
Words alone won't make you feel much better, but know that our hearts and prayers are with you.
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Sorry to here the news mate
Just hang there and it will get easier
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Sorry to hear of your loss. Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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Dave, With all this going on so recently I can't beleive you had the time to get thoses valves to me so quickly.Thanks mate!!
The hole your mums passing has left in your heart is nowhere as big as the hole thats left in your dads life. Look after him. He is definately gonna need you and yours for a fair while.
My condolences to you and your family
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My deepest condolences to you and your family. Mother's are our greatest heroes. Take comfort in your close knit family now. She will be watching over you always.
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Very sorry to hear that Dave, I am on the other hand glad you had time with her at the end and could talk about things that matter to you. That is a day I dread. I truly feel for you.
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Gawd, that's tough. I'll keep a thought for you.
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I'm so sorry Dave. Words just can't convey either the grief you must feel or our best wishes for you and your family.
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I'm truly sorry to hear this news. I wish you the best. Make sure to spend time with dad months from now, because that's when it will be toughest for him.
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Sorry to hear of your loss Dave , our thoughts are with you .
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Sorry to hear your sad news. That's a hard thing to deal with. My condolences.
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Sad news indeed. May God bring comfort to your father and to you in this time of grief.
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I am very sorry for your news. My deepest condolences to you and your family. I know these words are not enough.
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Dave, very sorry to hear this. Be thankful you did get to talk before she left. Some of us don't get that chance. My wifes mom went a similar way. God bless.
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Very sorry for your loss
Glad that you were with her at the end
Hoping your dad is able to recover in a reasonable amount of time
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Dave,sorry to hear of you and your familys loss.It's good your all close together.The pain will never leave but hopefuly,in time will ease.
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Sad indeed. My heartfelt condolences to you and yours Dave.
Stay close with that close family of yours and especially your dad, has to be really tough on him and he'll need to lean on you.
You're in my prayers, friend.
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Dave sorry to hear of your lost. My heart truely goes out to you.
Lost my mother to a long illest in 2000, she was 55.
As you can see that some of us have been threw what your going threw. You have friends here to lean on in the hard times and the good times.
I will say that my Dad has learn how to use the computer, if we could only teach him how to use a debit card. Baby steps...
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thanks for the kind words everyone.
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Very sad news Dave. My heartfelt condolences to you from Lily and I. Remember the good times.
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I'm sorry Dave. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family. I'm glad you had some time with your mom to talk.
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My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family during this difficult time. Moms always hold a special place with their sons.
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Thoughts and prayers for you and yours, Dave. Hang in there.
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