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I had a girlfriend for 3 years and 5 months until I couldn't see the light at the end of the tunnel and broke up with her. I've now got a new woman 2.5 months into it and she is a great person. Well the old girl got into a bad accident in the slushy snow last week and was in the hospital. (I found all this out from a mutual friend.) Anyways I tried to call her, but couldn't get through so I called her mom to get the details and hope for the best. I'm a nice guy I don't want to see my x get seriously injured. Well I told my parents (who loved her dearly and still do) and they were upset of course. Anyways my parents seem to hope things will work out with the old girlfriend, and I don't think they are giving my new girl a chance.
Things with my old girl just didn't work out won't work out and we both kinda recognized this and went our seperate ways. How do I get my parents to move on?
BTW I'm 23, live on my own since 18, and 3 hours away from my parents. So they don't see the side of the girlfriends that I have the same as I do. Any thoughts are welcome
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Dont worry about your parents. Its a new shock to them and it needs to soak in. Soon enough theyll discuss it a bit with you and finally theyll adjust. Just give them some time...........
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23? Give me a break! Head down to the bar...pick up a haybag every now and then, and who cares what your parents think.
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Thats part of life. Parents and all. My wife and I still have friendly relations with out oldest boys ex, she's great, his loss. Just because you move on with another woman is no reason your parents can't still be friends with your ex. A pat on the back for your mature breakup. Nasty ex hate relationships are sad, although sometimes the result of one person lacking maturity and wisdom. Good luck to ya!
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23? Give me a break! Head down to the bar...pick up a haybag every now and then, and who cares what your parents think.
I have to agree with what mark said here. Might have put it a little more tactfully mind....naaaah, maybe not.
Your 23, go ride your bike.
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23? Give me a break! Head down to the bar...pick up a haybag every now and then, and who cares what your parents think.
I have to agree with what mark said here. Might have put it a little more tactfully mind....naaaah, maybe not.
Your 23, go ride your bike.
Arseanlfan, you insensitive git. The boys asking for advise, shame on you.
Parents rarely agree with theirs sons choice in women, and when they do it is very hard for them to accept a change. But they will so dont fret it. You might have bigger issues with your new girl. How does she fell about you caring for your ex.
Ask her, "my ex is in hospital hurt, do you mind if i go visit her". If she says, "yes thats 'FINE'" you are in a heap of trouble. 
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Your life is your life once you let others including your parents run it, well its not a good thing.Choose your path my friend
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23? Give me a break! Head down to the bar...pick up a haybag every now and then, and who cares what your parents think.
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Yes I'm 23 and yes I still go to the bars and enjoy some other young game....I mean company. Trust me I'm still livin and lovin life. I don't let my parents control what I do, but I want them to agree with what (or who) I am doing. Yeah the new girl of coarse was a little jealous. Mainly because she doesn't think any of her x's would do what I did and call her mom.
Thanks guys I guess patients is key. For now I'm going to make like a brick and get laid.
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Well I told my parents (who loved her dearly and still do) and they were upset of course. Anyways my parents seem to hope things will work out with the old girlfriend, and I don't think they are giving my new girl a chance.
Things with my old girl just didn't work out won't work out and we both kinda recognized this and went our seperate ways. How do I get my parents to move on?
I recall my Grandmother clucking over my Dad's college sweetie(the one before Mom) saying, "she was just perfect for him" when I turned 30...some parents never move on, doesn't mean you shouldn't.
A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort. Herm Albright (1876 - 1944)
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"Lighten up, Francis."
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Too young to be in a committed relationship.
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When driving in slushy snow, one should allow extra distance for braking and be very aware of other drivers who don't know how to handle it.
Contra todo mal, mezcal; contra todo bien, también
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I don't know, folks! Parents are usually pretty wise about stuff like this.
Of all the ladies I dragged over to Mom and Pop's when I was "lookin' around", the ONLY one they ever took a shine to was the one I ended up marrying! And they turned out to be pretty much right on mark about THAT ONE, alright!
(and I ended up always havin' to agree with ol' Pop whenever he'd tell me later on..."Ya know boy, the smarted thing you ever did in your life was marrying Judie!")
Yep! Just like a good Single Malt Scotch, you might call me "an acquired taste" TOO.(among the many OTHER things you may care to call me, of course)
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Hard not to answer this even though I don't have um um I'm not female. Unless Ma and Pa are financing your romance with this young lady, I wouldn't worry much about what they think. Go for the haybags.
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Oh! And BTW...Friar John is RIGHT ON!!! Quote:
Too young to be in a committed relationship.
Kid...at 23 you haven't got a friggin' clue about YOURSELF, let alone about the fairer sex or "how the world works in general"!!! 
(and THIS is why EVERYBODY on this friggin' planet should be on MANDATORY Norplant until they're AT LEAST 30 friggin' years OLD!!!!!)
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Yep! Just like a good Single Malt Scotch, you might call me "an acquired taste" TOO.(among the many OTHER things you may care to call me, of course)
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23 is way too young...I'm thinking 32 is too....
Go out, enjoy, and if see's still sround in 6 months then see how it goes.
Dunno about anyone else, but I still see ex's around, and I still worry about them. Well most of them anyway. There's one or two I don't give a stuff about. But if any of them ended up in hospital, I'd at least visit.
My parents still think that I should be with xxxxx (where xxxxx is a person's name, that for no particular reason I'm not gonna name) but xxxxx has since turned into a not nice person. I haven't seen him in 5 years and the last I heard he had a kid, then got married. But had developed an attitude that me and a group of mutual friends didn't like. Course the parents didn't see that side of him, they just saw the nice bloke he was aged 20.
Don't let your parents dictate who you do see and don't see. You'll resent them in the long term.
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My 2 cents would advise you to leave your parents out of these types of equations. For the most part, they see things from their own perspective. Also, I have very strong opinions against going back to an old girlfriend (but these are my own). I only mention this seeing as how young you are. Live! 
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Often people know a lot from first impressions. Maybe your parents see something you don't. But ultimately it is your choice that matters. Take your time and they will come around. (Man, I feel like dear Abby.)
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Aaron, I see in your bio you grew up on a farm. Your parents should be glad your gal only has 2 legs. I hope they don't give you a hard time about the bike. Oh to be 23 again,I envy you my friend! 
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"Lighten up, Francis."
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Oh! And BTW...Friar John is RIGHT ON!!!
OMFG... I expect the earth to crash into the sun at any moment.
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Yep! Just like a good Single Malt Scotch, you might call me "an acquired taste" TOO.(among the many OTHER things you may care to call me, of course)
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With the new girl being advised of this plan, take home a couple bar hags maybe the ones that have tats and swear alot,oh and dont forget they must also be smokers, and introduce them to your parents for sunday dinner, then after doing that, take the new girl home to meet them. they will LOVE her!!!!! 
ENJOY!!!!! NEWT!!!!!
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Both of my parents were on their second marriage when they had me, so I always took their girlfriend advice with a grain of salt.  The best thing I can tell you is if gf#1 ever comes up, for any reason, in a conversation with gf#2, refer to gf#1 as WHATSHERNAME!  After 16 years, my wife and I still use this word to refer to any ex's. Works like a charm.
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Hey I am in my 20's as well. I think we're a minority on this board.
Parents are weird that way....they're old, old people resist change! I accepted that.
However, with age comes wisdom, they will see things differently than you. Possibly your happiness....are you honest with yourself? Could you have been happier with the ex than the current 'ol lady??? Parents pick up things like that, even before you will.
On the flip side, your young and you can only be young once. My adivce.....
Forget your parents, dump your girlfriend, your ex will heal, down a half dozen beer followed up by a 26 of gin, hit the bar, and perve on the first slimmy that crosses your path!
Cheers buddy!
Ceuls
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Oh to be 23 again,I envy you my friend!
Only if I can know what I know now; and can keep my list of mistakes intact.  Otherwise, forget it
A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort. Herm Albright (1876 - 1944)
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Oh to be 23 again,I envy you my friend!
Only if I can know what I know now; and can keep my list of mistakes intact. Otherwise, forget it
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I wouldn't worry to much about the folks. They'll get over it. When you a looking for that some one remember you and not your folks, buddies, or any one else has to live with your decision. It's some times good to take others views under advisement but in the end you have to make the call because in the end you have to live with the consequences.
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23---23--i think i was 23,, once upon a time--- lets see....bee gees....travolta....mid '70s,,, hey Bucky,,,help me out here..... KID...GO ride yer bike, ya haven't met any WOMEN yet enjoy while ya can,,,,yeah thats right i'm a dinosaur 
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You're asking for advice on your love life on a site where we can't even agree on what oil to use or what color bike is fastest... (it's black, btw..). As an old weird parent with a 22 year old son I can tell you this much, we want you to quit the boozin' and the cruisin' and find a nice girl and make something of yourself. We didn't, so it's up to you!
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Haybags and Barhags...
Roger Miller sang that, didn't he?
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BIGBILL, I think you have really seen the issue here!!!!!!!! drive with much more care in bad conditions:) 
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-two wheels move to soul"
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Over the years, I have had the opportunity to make the following observations:
1. If parents had their way, the human race would have died out long before the stone age.
2. Love can make you do things almost as stupid as alcohol or drugs.
3. Love can be very painful. A long lasting relationship is better with someone you can tolerate than with someone you love because they can't hurt you as much.
To define love, the best I've heard was Sonny Barger's observation sometime in the 60's. "Love? Yeah, that's the feeling you get when you like something as much as your motorcycle".
Let's hope there's intelligent life somewhere in space 'cause it's buggar all down here. -- Monte Python
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When driving in slushy snow, one should allow extra distance for braking and be very aware of other drivers who don't know how to handle it.
A word to the wise is not necessary. It is the stupid ones who need the advice.
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Ok guys I get it. I'm a young pup with a lotta life left in me. Trust me I would be riding right now, and not even talking about this, but I live in KC, MO. 1" of snow on the ground right now doesn't make riding to pleasant. Yes I'm young. No I'm not in any "serious" relationship. Marriage is still years down the road for me. I bar hopped 5 nights this week, and brought home some "homework". "Whatshername" is working great. I just got done lowering my pegs. See misc. for pics. Thanks for the help. Like you said I'm young, but I'm smart by going to the more experienced for help. Just the way I look at it. Thanks
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Well for what is worth, I married my wife at 23... fast forward, we have 2 little ones (4 yr old boy and a 2yr old girl) and this year we will celebrate our 12 yr anniversary, our relationship is strong as nails, I guess it really depends on the individuals... would I change anything in my past if I could? No way! every decision I have made in my life have contributed to the man I am today and I wouldn't change that. Now, remember man that the one living with your girl will be you not your parents, so your happiness comes first, your parents approval comes second.
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